Tag: Parenting


Another Stephen Colbert Talent: Wisdom

I am the father of three daughters in their teens and twenties, which is why this video from TV star Stephen Colbert caught my attention. It’s produced by Tavi Gevinson’s Rookie magazine, for its “Ask a Grown” advice series, featuring a variety of well-known personalities answering real questions written by girls. As someone who appreciates the complexities of parenting in ways that merit serious attention to so-called “traditional” values and the fact that each generation’s uniqueness demands respect, this Emmy winner’s guidance struck me as genuinely wise. In the clip – no......

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Inside the Lives of Single Mom Rabbis

I just watched a documentary – called All of the Above: Single, Clergy, Mother – that touched my heart, mind, and spirit. In the movie, three rabbis and a cantor, each raising kids, describe with remarkable vulnerability their candid experiences pursuing the choice of single motherhood. All of the subjects of the film are successful and prominent in their communities and of course, for any woman, the decision to become a single mother is complicated. Their four narratives vary in poignant ways, but in eloquently revealing personal physical, emotional, and financial details......

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Own Your Grit vs. Quit Decisions

Are you a quitter or a gritter? Do you take special pride in your ability to stick to a task, or to getting your kids to do so? Does it matter what is actually being accomplished, or does that not even matter because life is mostly about staying in the game, no matter what? Is grit – defined by its most prominent proponent, University of Pennsylvania psychologist Angela Duckworth, as “the tendency to sustain perseverance and passion for challenging long-term goals” – really as important as it is increasingly fashionable to claim?......

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What If Your Teen Is Caught Sharing Sexy Selfies?

Teens getting drunk at parties is nothing new, and by now, neither is the even more disturbing (though thankfully less common) practice among teenagers of sexting. However, a recent article from psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow reports that it isn’t just sexting; many kids are sharing explicit photos of themselves online. Dr. Ablow offered some parenting advice which I found myself both sympathetic to, and genuinely upset by. He suggests: Regular drug-testing, Confiscation of cell phones, Removal of internet connectivity, Temporary suspension from school, Intensive psychotherapy. But that’s it. That is all he......

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Video: What Do Parents Owe Their Children?

From Odyssey Network’s Faith on the Record series: This week, a New Jersey judge decided that 18 year-old high school student Rachel Canning is not entitled to ongoing financial support from her parents. Brad Hirschfield calls for better communication and understanding. Odyssey Networks tells the stories of faith in action changing the world for the better. Their stories explore a wise range of issues including peace, tolerance, social justice and the environment.? Visit Odyssey Networks at www.odysseynetworks.org....

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Do Babies Have a Moral Compass?

Is it possible that some babies are more moral than others? That babies are born with an innate moral inclination? That morality is biologically encoded and not learned over time? The short answers are: yes, apparently so, and let’s not get carried away. The new study which addresses these specific questions should interest anyone with kids, or anyone interested in how we help create a more decent world. After all, the future of our world depends largely on how humane and moral we are or can be. In fact, the study and......

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The Art of Finding God in the Details

The devil is in the details. We’ve all heard it said so often. Less frequently heard, the original formulation was that God is in the details. Both are true! How? Why is it details can be sources of sacred insight and wisdom, yet also sources of hellish frustration? How can even the same details be absurd picayune minutiae sometimes, and fascinating particulars at other times? According to some wisdom traditions, details are the very things which we are meant to rise above. And yet, according to others, they are the very things......

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'Friday Night Tykes': How Much Should We Push Our Children?

When the NFL says a broadcast about football is difficult to watch because it is too violent, you know there is a problem. This is what the league said about Esquire Network’s Friday Night Tykes, a reality series following several teams of 8-and 9-year-olds in the Texas Youth Football Association.? The trailer shows ranting coaches and obsessive parents, who are essentially fast-tracking kids to head trauma. I kept thinking: I guess in Texas, as long as you pray, you can play to kill. This network’s portrayal of young boys engaged in grueling......

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Hackschooling: No More Teachers, No More Books?

In the 21st century, the notion of hacking involves much more than some computer aficionados spreading viruses and breaking into official websites. Hacking is a mindset, a way of thinking. It’s really something anyone can do by challenging traditional systems. Teenager Logan Laplante isn’t home schooled, private schooled or public schooled – he is hackschooled! His education revolves around the study and practice of being happy and growing up healthy and nurturing creativity, things which Logan and his parents believe are outside the focus of traditional education. Here’s a kid who doesn’t......

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What Our Kids Learn From Us

What is great education all about? I don’t simply mean how do we get kids to achieve better grades. I mean, how do we get our children, or anyone else we’d like to have a positive influence on for that matter, to seriously engage in what we deem to be important? How do we effectively transmit our values, our traditions, our sense of what life is all about – you know, the stuff about which we care most – to our children? In fact, even if you don’t have kids or grandkids,......

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