Tag: Daily Life


Do Pessimists Live Longer?

What do you say when you look at your life? Is your glass half-full, or half-empty? Your life, or at least your longevity, may depend on your answer. Recent studies bucking the trend toward “positive psychology,” and the science of being happier, indicate that pessimism – not optimism – may actually contribute to living a longer life. Of course, the pessimists among us will doubt these findings, which ironically may make these promises more likely to come true! Before all you pessimists start celebrating, though (itself a funny image, a celebration of......

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How a Ruling on Gay Marriage Gave a Lesson on Decision Making

Whether or not, as the saying goes, Virginia is for lovers, now that the 4th Circuit Court of Appeals has overthrown the state’s ban on gay marriage, it will at least be for those more inclined toward marriage, including same-sex couples. But perhaps more interesting than the decision itself, which I admit I support, is the thinking that animated Judge Henry Floyd, writing for the 2-1 majority. The judge’s decision is striking because it speaks to something far bigger than the issue of same-sex marriage – as if that were not a......

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Beyond Living with Cancer. Stuart Scott's Wisdom for Living, Period.

This video of ESPN’s Stuart Scott accepting the Jimmy V Perseverance Award is about way more than living with cancer – as if that would not be reason enough to watch. You can watch from the beginning, or pick it up at 6:50 when his speech begins, but either way you will be both inspired and enlightened. The “take away’s” for me are: 1.?? ?Think bigger. Whatever the challenge, address it with your eyes focused on whatever you believe matters even more. For Scott, that means his family, especially his kids, but......

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The Beauty of Saying 'I'm Sorry'

Recently, I wrote about the art of accepting compliments. On a related note, the whole question of when to say “I’m sorry,” and what those words mean, strikes very close to home with me. My guess is that it does the same for you. We hear those two little words so often, and probably say them as often – but what do they mean? Are they an expression of passive regret about a particular circumstance, e.g., “I’m sorry that the coffee wound up on your shirt,” or under more serious circumstances, “that......

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Making Travel Plans with Loved Ones: Why So Much Drama?

Ever make plans with someone, and then all of a sudden they switch things up on you? Of course you have! That’s life. Does it bother you? My guess is, even if you’re one of those people who pride themselves on your flexibility, if the plans were about something you consider a big deal, you’d find yourself annoyed. But why? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not challenging the legitimacy of the annoyance, because I experience it, too. It’s distressing when those around us depart from what we thought was an agreed-upon plan.......

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Four Life Lessons from The World Cup

Life lessons from the World Cup? Yup! Wisdom that will help you you live a better and happier life? You bet! Whether you are closely following the World Cup or not, you likely know of Germany’s semi-final round victory over Brazil this week. And while the United States is no longer competing, you may remember the headlines proclaiming that even though the US team lost to Germany, it was a loss that got them into the next round of competition! How does that work?! It works because the first round of play......

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Like a Boss: Tapping Your Talent For Leadership

What’s the difference between being in charge and having genuine authority? What’s the difference between being “the leader” and exercising leadership? If you can answer these questions for yourself and live in light of your answer, you will discover that you have both more capacity and more influence than you probably ever imagined. You will find that you can accomplish more than you may realize, and feel pretty good about it as well! All of which brings to mind Alexander Haig, former U.S. Secretary of State. Yes, I am dating myself –......

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What Do You See in Your Mirror?

What we see in the mirror may be one of the most powerful forces in how we live our lives. That view shapes our aspirations and expectations – sometimes for good, sometimes not. The power of self-image is pretty hard to overestimate. That’s what makes it especially important to address the fact that a negative view of oneself is, unfortunately, terribly common. As I’ve been reminded lately, the challenge of appreciating who you see in the mirror and thinking positively about yourself – for just about everyone from teenage kids to seniors......

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In Art or Life, Imagine the Backstory

Did you ever wonder what happened to make the Mona Lisa smile? Or ponder the source of anguish in Edvard Munch’s The Scream? And why is the old man’s nose in Domenico Ghirlandaio’s An Old Man and His Grandson so puffed up? The (True!) History of Art is one of the most hilarious books I’ve seen in a long time, and one of the cleverest ways to invite people to engage with the world’s great paintings. Through this book, Sylvain Coissard and Alexis Lemoine enable children and adults to look at instantaneously......

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The Transformation of Russell Brand

Do you believe people can change? What does it take to change and what would convince you someone has changed? Remember Russell Brand, the controversial, formerly drug and sex-addicted, adolescent funny man who became a movie star with roles in mindless hit comedies and was married for a bit to Katy Perry? In the video below, a collection of interview highlights, Brand shares a message of spiritual revolution and idealism. Is it possible he has evolved into an enlightening force? Watch as he describes how celebrity, our mainstream media, and corrupt political,......

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