Tag: Judgment


Applying the Secret Ballot to More than Just How We Vote

With the country gearing up for mid-term elections, have you ever wondered why people put bumper stickers on their cars or signs in their front yards in support of their candidate, while at the same time enjoying the practice of casting their ballot in secret? Lately, I’ve been considering how applying the notion of the “secret ballot” to other moments of my day might help me to be the more peaceful person that I aim to become. When we wear our politics, unsolicited, on the outside, do we really think it’s going......

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We Are More Than the Sum of Our Stories

TWD contributor, Amy Shouse wrote a recent post about how we rush to judgment and that “until we know a person’s whole story and take a moment to think what it might be like to ‘climb into their skin,’ we’ll miss out on discovering the empathy we have within ourselves…” She was right on. This insight is taken radically and unnervingly further on Yom Kippur, the most sacred day in the Jewish calendar, which begins tomorrow evening. Repeatedly, during this daylong practice of Reality Therapy devoted to forgiveness, we are reminded that......

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The Trap of Making Assumptions and Judging

When was the last time you made an assumption about another person, whether it be from their behavior or appearance, without knowing a thing about them? Yesterday? Today? A few minutes ago? Maybe it was the guy in the Hummer tailgating you that you assumed was a jerk. Perhaps the woman in line at the grocery store who snapped at the checker because she was in a hurry seemed mean and selfish. These are assumptions that many people might agree with. But what if you learned more about these people? What if......

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Our Clothes, Our Selves

Does clothing really matter? That’s a question that I have come to take with increasing seriousness, especially as a parent of teenage daughters. Is clothing just the wrapping, and not to be confused with the real gift — the person wearing it? Or, could it be that things are a bit more complicated than that? Well, from a purely numerical standpoint, in the United States alone, the apparel industry employs over 4.2 million people, and is a 250 billion dollar a year business. So, if for no other reason, clothing matters. But......

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When You See Richard Sherman What Do You See?

One of many Super Bowl story lines this week will be who is Richard Sherman, the star cornerback of the Seattle Seahawks. Last week in a post game interview, moments after his pivotal game winning play breaking up a pass in the end zone that put the Seahawks in the Super Bowl, Sherman let rip a crazed rant focused on Michael Crabtree the opposing receiver and a wild over-the-top hyping of himself as the best cornerback in football. The interviewer appeared shell-shocked and within minutes mainstream media and social media were ablaze......

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